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How Do I Handle Conflict With My Partner?

Hi Allison,

I have been a long-time fan of your content and have had such a great experience with your ESL content.

I don't know if this question is worth asking but I want to know how to deal with a partner wanting different things than you during conflict. For context, my partner and I have great communication and when one of us is in turmoil, the other is ready to comfort the other in any way they need. However, when we are both in a terrible mood, I want to be smothered in comfort while my partner wants to create as much distance as possible. I feel as though I always have to let the distance happen because I can tolerate the discomfort more easily, but it still feels devastating each time. How do I find a compromise in this situation that is beneficial to either of us? Thank you so much for reading and your help!

- In desperate need of a weighted blanket