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Meg's avatar

A lovely read! Also, regarding your outfit choice, have to say I thought you looked so lovely in the instagram post from the funeral it made me think of the Fleabag episode where she looks unintentionally amazing at her own mothers funeral! Perhaps worth a watch for the laughs and the tears xx

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Allison Raskin's avatar

Oh great suggestion! Thank you!

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Charlie Seton's avatar

Allison, you are amazing! During the ceremony, I was standing behind you and noted to myself what a beautiful ribbon you had in your hair (and I have photos to prove it!).

I continue to be impressed with how you can step outside of yourself and present such an unvarnished insight into your whole process.

As my recently deceased almost 100 year-old mother would have commented, and believe me it is her highest praise: “She’s a real pistol!”

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Allison Raskin's avatar

Thank you so much, Charlie! That is the highest praise <3

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Melinda Gayle's avatar

This brought me to tears. What a beautiful ceremony. It is never easy to say goodbye to someone you love.

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Allison Raskin's avatar

Thank you so much, Melinda <3

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Esmé Weijun Wang's avatar

Thank you so much for sharing this, and your mother, with us. ❤️

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Allison Raskin's avatar

Thank you for reading <3

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Paola's avatar

What an outstanding way to summarize the life and impact of someone who so profoundly shaped your life. As I read your mothers eulogy I couldn't help but smile at how proud your mother must have felt that so many of her loved ones but especially the daughter she thought would never be able to have a "normal" life is thriving beyond belief and keeping her spirit alive through such a difficult time. All my love Allison, I've followed you since the days of Buzzfeed and I can't help but feel a sense of pride at how far you've come. Thank you for sharing your wonderful mother with us, may her spirit continue to guide you. With love and tears, Paola.

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Allison Raskin's avatar

This is all so kind. Thank you so much, Paola! <3

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Robin's avatar

Thanks for sharing this!

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Allison Raskin's avatar

Thank you for reading <3

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CLAUDIA MORALES's avatar

This is very very beautiful, and comes to me on the day that I am writing, effectively, the eulogy I didn't get to give when my partner was killed one year ago tomorrow. Thank you so much for sharing.

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CLAUDIA MORALES's avatar

Rereading this I am realizing that one of my oldest friends, who got to also become my partner Ryan's friend, and who spent the worst week of my life going to great lengths to help me and Ryan's community, is in one of the photos from your funeral. He had shared with me your mom's indelible impact on his life, but seeing him in the photo, especially today, is such a reminder of how far community and friendship sprawls and where it brings us. Thinking of you and your family, blood and chosen.

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Allison Raskin's avatar

Oh wow! That is so wild! Sending you so much love, and may your partner's memory be a blessing like I know it will be <3

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Frances Ray's avatar

Allison, what a gift to her and us for these wonderfully authentic eulogies. Thank you, thank you.

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Allison Raskin's avatar

Thank you so much for reading <3

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Shanthi's avatar

Such a moving tribute to your mother. Thank you for sharing her with us

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Allison Raskin's avatar

Thank you so much <3

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Ella Dawson's avatar

Thank you for sharing this with us, Allison.

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Allison Raskin's avatar

<3 <3 <3

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Maya Williams's avatar

You and your loved ones are truly remarkable. Thank you for this <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

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Allison Raskin's avatar

Thank you so much, Maya <3

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Elaine R. Frieman's avatar

😭🫶🏻

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Proiti's avatar

So moving. Thank you for sharing this. Lots of love to you and your family.

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Allison Raskin's avatar

Thank you so much <3

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Cam's avatar

Lovely words <3 Cried through the whole thing. Hope you and your family are doing okay.

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Allison Raskin's avatar

Thank you so much, we are hanging in there <3

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Mariana Caldas's avatar

This was incredible! I’m truly impressed by how you were able to write an entire funeral service on such short notice and one that captured your mother’s essence so beautifully at that. Much love to you and your family, Allison. ❤️

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Allison Raskin's avatar

Thank you so much <3

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Sabina's avatar

This is so beautiful, thank you for your generosity in sharing. May your mother's memory be a blessing forever.

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Allison Raskin's avatar

Thank you <3

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