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Catalina's avatar

this appeared in my inbox just as I was spiraling about a friend having lunch with someone else and thinking how awful I must be, that she didn't invite me.

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> I am proud of you for continuing to spend time and effort on friendships even though you get hurt along the way. I know that you sometimes feel like a fool for investing more in people than they invest in you. But there is nothing foolish about choosing to care about other people.

Friendships have been a constant struggle in my life where I spiral a lot. Any kind of close relationship, platonic or romantic, is so difficult and almost always activates a lot of fear of being hurt as that hurt is just... ugh, the worst emotional pain ever. I used to chastise myself for investing so much in other people, but I also realize that wanting people you care about to also care about you is very human.

> So even if I fall into a spiral, I always have a rope attached to help drag myself out. That rope didn’t used to exist. My options are different now that it does.

I really like this rope metaphor. Some days it will be easy to lift ourselves out with the rope, and other days, it will feel insurmountable. But having the rope there is a source of hope.

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