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Phoebe's avatar

I really appreciate how much you talk about friendship on your blog. It's such an important component of our lives but has so much less research/dialogue than romantic relationships.

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Elle Jackson's avatar

Thanks for writing about this! It’s crazy to me that we put so much thought and effort into maintaining romantic relationships but then just expect friendships - which are also relationships! - to grow with no effort or last forever and never change.

I have a friendship ranking system that helps me and it goes like this: 1s are inner circle, 2s are long term people you love, 3s are people you are excited about that might become 1s or 2s, 4s are casual acquaintances that prob won’t get deeper, 5s are people who you are fine being around but would never hang out with 1-on-1. For whatever reason thinking about friends in these terms helps me be at peace with whatever level someone is in my life and also recognize that it can change and that it’s okay if it changes.

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