If you were a fly on the wall of my house, you would hear me making countless jokes about me not having any friends. Whenever a friend texts me, I like to announce it to John as though it is breaking news. I often meet a new person I’d like to befriend and then immediately have a conversation with myself about not getting my hopes up because it will never happen. I routinely fantasize about a world in which I have a close, great group of friends and finally feel accepted. The problem with all this is that I
This is so interesting! I've heard that these negative schemas can be a trauma response - if things have gone badly in the past for us in one area, we assume that negative outcome will just keep happening. It is so hard to challenge these thoughts but so rewarding. Thanks for sharing your experience, I definitely find this post super relatable!
Loved this so much as I’m currently struggling with friendships. Something my CBT therapist and I worked on when I was engaged is looking at my actual experience of things vs my thoughts like you mentioned and it was super helpful! (Ex: my thought might be what if I don’t actually love my boyfriend? But my experiences didn’t match that thought because it showed how much I love him and the evidence didn’t support my thought at all!)
This is so interesting! I've heard that these negative schemas can be a trauma response - if things have gone badly in the past for us in one area, we assume that negative outcome will just keep happening. It is so hard to challenge these thoughts but so rewarding. Thanks for sharing your experience, I definitely find this post super relatable!
So glad it was helpful! We are definitely biased toward negativity in general but even just knowing that makes it a little easier to combat it! xoxo A
Loved this so much as I’m currently struggling with friendships. Something my CBT therapist and I worked on when I was engaged is looking at my actual experience of things vs my thoughts like you mentioned and it was super helpful! (Ex: my thought might be what if I don’t actually love my boyfriend? But my experiences didn’t match that thought because it showed how much I love him and the evidence didn’t support my thought at all!)
Yes! this is such a helpful technique! Thank you for sharing!