Dear Allison, I have been following you and Gaby since the couch days. I have always felt like I related so much more with you and have loved following your Emotional Support Lady journey. As a twin sister where we are both diagnosed with depression and anxiety, I fully understand that feeling of walking on eggshells around each other and how it can be frustrating how extremely different sisters (even twins!) can be. We also have an older sister who reminds me so much of your older sister. She is just now finishing up her PhD in Clinical Psychology with a focus on teenagers. We always joke (not really joking...) that growing up with me and my twin sister gave her a lot of experience. Not just observing our relationship with each other, but she was the confidant of each of us when we weren't having a relationship of our own. Now in our mid twenties, my twin and I are just now starting to have a relationship that isn't full of eggshells and cautiousness of each others' feelings and I can't wait to see how it continues to evolve! Thank you for everything!!
Thank you so much for sharing this! I love that you spoke to the evolving nature of your relationship with your twin--it's so encouraging and relatable! So excited for both of you for this next phase of relating to each other! xoxo A
Wow, you're really sharing a lot of your personal truth, at least it's really taking me along emotionally in some scenes from your past. Your sister's and your courage to take about it all (publicly, as it is!) and your - in the present - much more loving and also more able way to see, accept and support each other is very encouraging. I'm a younger brother to an older brother; and unfortunately our relationship is rather, hmm, helpless. Hope I can make something of your inspiration - thank you!
I'm so glad you connected to the material! Sibling relationships are some of the most complex and yet rarely talked about through that lens! Sending so much love as you figure out what's right for you xoxo A
my younger sister has asperger's and OCD, just got diagnosed last year. we spent our entire childhood not knowing what she had, we only knew that it was “different”. what happened differently in my family was what your sister said: my mother always said that we should support each other, because in the world she is my best friend and I hers. the first person she told about her diagnosis was me.
That said, I related too much to the feelings that your sister talked about, the frustration of not being able to do things with her because of the disease, even now.
Thank you so much for sharing this! So many things can be true at once and I'm impressed you're able to both be there for her and acknowledge your own frustrations. I can tell she's lucky to have you in her life xoxo
Also, the fact that you were close with your parents as a child and are still close with your dad is a great plus! I'm also close with my parents. My dad calls me a few times during the week, and we celebrate the holidays together with my parents. Sometimes, you know... parents will be parents, but in general, this is a very good thing.
I might be wrong here because I don't really know you guys, and it's just one conversation, but it seems to me that you and your sister are, in many ways, very different people. I'm not sure you would be talking to each other as very close friends if you weren't sisters (her with you, but also you with her).
It seems like (again, I might be wrong) your sister is very logically driven and goal-oriented in how she generally approaches life, while you are a bit more go-with-the-flow and empathetic. Your sister seems to be very hung up on how things "should be" and how you should have behaved as a kid. To me, that's a bit judgmental. It seems to me that you weren't as "weird" as a child as she makes it seem. You both say that you were doing things that were not "socially acceptable," but it seems to me like a bit of an exaggeration. Of course, everyone has a different childhood; mine was probably different from yours. But as a mom, I can tell you that children are really, really weird. That's just the way it is. The fact that you feel more mature and settled today says more about you, in my opinion, than the fact that you were once a "weird" kid.
Loved this ep! Please thank Jocelyn for doing this for us as you said she's usually a low profile person. As the younger sister I can relate to that dynamic, but also, geez, I feel ya for being intimidated by Jocelyn. I'm not related to her and she's so put together she fucking terrifies me from there! lol I check my posture a few times to not disappoint her during the video!
I'm so glad it was helpful!! And kudos to you for forming a stronger relationship now! We can't change the past but what matters most is the present xoxo
Dear Allison, I have been following you and Gaby since the couch days. I have always felt like I related so much more with you and have loved following your Emotional Support Lady journey. As a twin sister where we are both diagnosed with depression and anxiety, I fully understand that feeling of walking on eggshells around each other and how it can be frustrating how extremely different sisters (even twins!) can be. We also have an older sister who reminds me so much of your older sister. She is just now finishing up her PhD in Clinical Psychology with a focus on teenagers. We always joke (not really joking...) that growing up with me and my twin sister gave her a lot of experience. Not just observing our relationship with each other, but she was the confidant of each of us when we weren't having a relationship of our own. Now in our mid twenties, my twin and I are just now starting to have a relationship that isn't full of eggshells and cautiousness of each others' feelings and I can't wait to see how it continues to evolve! Thank you for everything!!
Thank you so much for sharing this! I love that you spoke to the evolving nature of your relationship with your twin--it's so encouraging and relatable! So excited for both of you for this next phase of relating to each other! xoxo A
Wow, you're really sharing a lot of your personal truth, at least it's really taking me along emotionally in some scenes from your past. Your sister's and your courage to take about it all (publicly, as it is!) and your - in the present - much more loving and also more able way to see, accept and support each other is very encouraging. I'm a younger brother to an older brother; and unfortunately our relationship is rather, hmm, helpless. Hope I can make something of your inspiration - thank you!
I'm so glad you connected to the material! Sibling relationships are some of the most complex and yet rarely talked about through that lens! Sending so much love as you figure out what's right for you xoxo A
my younger sister has asperger's and OCD, just got diagnosed last year. we spent our entire childhood not knowing what she had, we only knew that it was “different”. what happened differently in my family was what your sister said: my mother always said that we should support each other, because in the world she is my best friend and I hers. the first person she told about her diagnosis was me.
That said, I related too much to the feelings that your sister talked about, the frustration of not being able to do things with her because of the disease, even now.
Thank you so much for sharing this! So many things can be true at once and I'm impressed you're able to both be there for her and acknowledge your own frustrations. I can tell she's lucky to have you in her life xoxo
Also, the fact that you were close with your parents as a child and are still close with your dad is a great plus! I'm also close with my parents. My dad calls me a few times during the week, and we celebrate the holidays together with my parents. Sometimes, you know... parents will be parents, but in general, this is a very good thing.
I might be wrong here because I don't really know you guys, and it's just one conversation, but it seems to me that you and your sister are, in many ways, very different people. I'm not sure you would be talking to each other as very close friends if you weren't sisters (her with you, but also you with her).
It seems like (again, I might be wrong) your sister is very logically driven and goal-oriented in how she generally approaches life, while you are a bit more go-with-the-flow and empathetic. Your sister seems to be very hung up on how things "should be" and how you should have behaved as a kid. To me, that's a bit judgmental. It seems to me that you weren't as "weird" as a child as she makes it seem. You both say that you were doing things that were not "socially acceptable," but it seems to me like a bit of an exaggeration. Of course, everyone has a different childhood; mine was probably different from yours. But as a mom, I can tell you that children are really, really weird. That's just the way it is. The fact that you feel more mature and settled today says more about you, in my opinion, than the fact that you were once a "weird" kid.
Loved this ep! Please thank Jocelyn for doing this for us as you said she's usually a low profile person. As the younger sister I can relate to that dynamic, but also, geez, I feel ya for being intimidated by Jocelyn. I'm not related to her and she's so put together she fucking terrifies me from there! lol I check my posture a few times to not disappoint her during the video!
I'm so glad it was helpful!! And kudos to you for forming a stronger relationship now! We can't change the past but what matters most is the present xoxo