Thank you for sharing Allison! Being willing to change - rather than doing it because you feel obligated creates such a different experience when quitting/starting a habit. I'm learning to drive at 27 years old because I finally feel ready to face my fear of the road, even though I spent years ashamed of my inability to achieve this goal. Once I felt ready, it sort of clicked into place and it sounds like this has been your experience taking a break from weed - you finally felt like it was your decision. Good for you! Xx
i also quit recently, partly for fertility but mostly because i’m an addict - nearly 5 years sober from alcohol - and i realized my feelings of shame were the same as when id been drinking. laying in bed thinking “tomorrow i won’t do it…..” and waking up to do it within an hour of opening my eyes. i just had to take a breath and say girl, you gotta drop this. i would have liked to be a casual stoner who can smoke weed with friends and not get out of control, but damn it! i just can’t! and accepting that has been liberating. good luck with your journey 💗
Thank you so much for sharing this experience! I have a feeling a lot of people can relate to wanting to have a causal relationship with something but realizing it might not be feasible. xoxo A
I’m going through this same exact situation with the same exact relationship to weed and I decided to quit right around when you did. It feels so beyond validating to read this & hear your thoughts about having faith in your future self’s ability to grow and love and change and accept when they’re ready. I’ve often been so stuck in the cycle of trying to force my brain to move and being so judgmental when it inevitably doesn’t, which makes it want to move the next time even less. I know it may sound silly but reading this fundamentally changed something in me - thank you so much Allison.
Thank you for writing about this Allison! My dad passed away a few months ago and I have been using weed daily since. I notice side effects and keep wondering if I should stop but this post made me realize that it is my decision to way the pros and cons myself and that I don’t think stopping is the right choice for me right now. I really appreciate you sharing your thought process at different times in your life. Best of luck!
Thank you for sharing! I'm in the same boat--not weed--but alcohol-also for fertility and for, ya, not being so dependent---even though that is a scary word! I took 360 days off from alcohol consumption in 2024 and learned so much about myself, how much I enjoyed/missed certain aspects of drinking and how much I never want to revisit others. Celebrated the post Christmas and New Year season with some drinks and back "on the wagon" as for 1/21/25 for hopefully! the length of fertiltiy treatment and then a full term pregnancy this year/early 2026. What I told people when they asked me about sobriety ---It's not hard and it's not easy. You can do it! :)
Hi Allison! long time listener, 1st time caller (always wanted to say that) I am also in the process of quitting weed after being an almost daily user for the entirety of my early 20's. Its hard and weird and boring and I'm having to basically reinvent my life bc I can't get sha-boinked out of my mind every night. Thanks for identifying how it feels to emotionally understand and (kinda) heal from this chemical dependence. You're a real one and definitely one of my favorite parasocial role models.
hi Allison - curious to know if you've heard of Marijuana Anonymous and if you have if you've considered it or why you haven't tried it. Thanks for reading my question :) Best of luck on your journey!
I recently stopped vaping as part of my journey to becoming pregnant, and resonated with so much of what you said here. Thanks for sharing your journey with us, Allison! 🙏🏻 So grateful for you, and have been for ten last 7 years of consuming your content on various platforms!
This came at the right time—I have to say I really identify with your first attempt, where you weren't happy with it at all, but I'm truly hoping to reach the point where you are now. :)
Thank you for sharing Allison! Being willing to change - rather than doing it because you feel obligated creates such a different experience when quitting/starting a habit. I'm learning to drive at 27 years old because I finally feel ready to face my fear of the road, even though I spent years ashamed of my inability to achieve this goal. Once I felt ready, it sort of clicked into place and it sounds like this has been your experience taking a break from weed - you finally felt like it was your decision. Good for you! Xx
Clicking into place is such a great way to describe it! Congratulations on learning how to drive on your timeline!
i also quit recently, partly for fertility but mostly because i’m an addict - nearly 5 years sober from alcohol - and i realized my feelings of shame were the same as when id been drinking. laying in bed thinking “tomorrow i won’t do it…..” and waking up to do it within an hour of opening my eyes. i just had to take a breath and say girl, you gotta drop this. i would have liked to be a casual stoner who can smoke weed with friends and not get out of control, but damn it! i just can’t! and accepting that has been liberating. good luck with your journey 💗
Thank you so much for sharing this experience! I have a feeling a lot of people can relate to wanting to have a causal relationship with something but realizing it might not be feasible. xoxo A
i just started a cold turkey break too, loved reading this 💛 we are stronger than our brains allow us to think we are
So true! And something I have had to learn many times!
this came at the perfect time, i’m also trying to curb my cannabis use/dependency :) we got this!
Yes, we do! xoxo A
I’m going through this same exact situation with the same exact relationship to weed and I decided to quit right around when you did. It feels so beyond validating to read this & hear your thoughts about having faith in your future self’s ability to grow and love and change and accept when they’re ready. I’ve often been so stuck in the cycle of trying to force my brain to move and being so judgmental when it inevitably doesn’t, which makes it want to move the next time even less. I know it may sound silly but reading this fundamentally changed something in me - thank you so much Allison.
Oh I am so glad it was helpful and resonated! Sending you love and support as we navigate similar journeys!
I needed to read this thank you. In the same boat and I need a break for personal reasons
Sending so much love!
Thank you for writing about this Allison! My dad passed away a few months ago and I have been using weed daily since. I notice side effects and keep wondering if I should stop but this post made me realize that it is my decision to way the pros and cons myself and that I don’t think stopping is the right choice for me right now. I really appreciate you sharing your thought process at different times in your life. Best of luck!
You'll know when you're ready. May his memory be a blessing <3
Thank you for sharing! I'm in the same boat--not weed--but alcohol-also for fertility and for, ya, not being so dependent---even though that is a scary word! I took 360 days off from alcohol consumption in 2024 and learned so much about myself, how much I enjoyed/missed certain aspects of drinking and how much I never want to revisit others. Celebrated the post Christmas and New Year season with some drinks and back "on the wagon" as for 1/21/25 for hopefully! the length of fertiltiy treatment and then a full term pregnancy this year/early 2026. What I told people when they asked me about sobriety ---It's not hard and it's not easy. You can do it! :)
Thank you for sharing your experience! I love your take and approach! Sending love!
thanks for sharing! this was extremely helpful to me
I'm so glad!! Thanks for reading!
Hi Allison! long time listener, 1st time caller (always wanted to say that) I am also in the process of quitting weed after being an almost daily user for the entirety of my early 20's. Its hard and weird and boring and I'm having to basically reinvent my life bc I can't get sha-boinked out of my mind every night. Thanks for identifying how it feels to emotionally understand and (kinda) heal from this chemical dependence. You're a real one and definitely one of my favorite parasocial role models.
ooof the boring part is so real! Thank you so much for the kind words! Wishing us both luck as we figure out how to pass the time in a new way!
I’m re-examining my relationship with it too right now. it’s ok to change and it’s ok to change our minds. wishing nothing but the best for you 🫶🏼
Ditto!!
hi Allison - curious to know if you've heard of Marijuana Anonymous and if you have if you've considered it or why you haven't tried it. Thanks for reading my question :) Best of luck on your journey!
Hi CJ! I'm personally not a fan of the MA/AA approach but recognize that it does work for a lot of people! Thank you for the kind words!!
I recently stopped vaping as part of my journey to becoming pregnant, and resonated with so much of what you said here. Thanks for sharing your journey with us, Allison! 🙏🏻 So grateful for you, and have been for ten last 7 years of consuming your content on various platforms!
I'm so glad it was relatable! Thank you so much for your support over the years--it really means a lot!
This came at the right time—I have to say I really identify with your first attempt, where you weren't happy with it at all, but I'm truly hoping to reach the point where you are now. :)
Good luck, and keep being persistent!
Thank you! I have a feeling you will reach that point when certain factors align and make it more manageable/appealing. xoxo A
I am also a vegetarian with the values that lean vegan. Let me know if you ever tackle that transition, so I can learn from your experience.
Same for you please! It's so hard haha
Thank you <3
Thank you for reading <3