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Annie's avatar

This is so well written! I struggle with the fact that while I may be growing in certain aspects of my life specially in terms of not believing harmful stereotypes related to food/body, I feel like a lot of women I know are stuck in that cycle. It almost feels triggering to be near them and hear them talk about food in that manner. So many people are out there restricting their diets and calling food "good" or "bad" instead of focusing on exercise and knowing you are doing your very best. I hope to be in a headspace where I'm not triggered by hearing someone else talk negatively about any food and just think of that as personal choice.

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Fhqwhgads's avatar

This came at SUCH a relatable time for me - especially the COVID paragraph. One of my roommates (and close friends) is aggressively in the "learn to live with it" camp, and although he received the base vaccine is "pro-choice" on the shot and skeptical of the boosters - largely due to concerns he has with government transparency (but I'll stop that rabbit hole right now).

As dicey as that topic can be, the good news is I've greatly improved in the last year at navigating the occasional tough convo with grace. I used to think I was obligated to change his mind on a "bad take" THEN AND THERE, which led to me losing my cool and internalizing my failure to communicate as a deep-seated vice. (Conflict anxiety SUCKS!!)

I've learned since then that minds just don't work that way, *but* that a respectful and productive discussion can help plant a seed -- if not to change minds, then at least to help them understand your view. A recent chat with my roommate about vaccines and masks still gave me an anxiety flare-up, but because I believe him to be a good person, I'm putting more effort into letting him feel heard and making my case in ways he can understand too.

I'll admittedly be relieved once I move in a few months and no longer have that anxiety source in my living space, but I can see how much we've both grown over the years and I'm proud of that.

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