Like many of us, I spend a lot of time on TikTok looking for videos that will either make me laugh or, you know, change my entire perception about life. About a week ago, I stumbled upon the latter. It was an interview with an older woman who explained that we tell lies to ourselves all the time. So, if we are going to lie to ourselves anyway, why not tell lies that make us feel good? That way, our bodies will get to work making those lies feel like a reality. Watching her, I felt a lightbulb go off in my brain. Is this the mental shift I’ve been looking for?
I feel like I fall into that same camp that you used to; I tell myself I’m protecting my feelings by not getting my hopes up but it definitely limits my optimism. I tell myself I’m being “realistic” because I’m someone who finds disappointment (particularly with myself) especially shattering. Even reading this and feeling it resonate with the awareness that more positivity would probably serve me better, I can’t fully convince myself I need to do something different. Thank you for this source of self-reflection. Looks like I’ve found this week’s topic for therapy!
Isn't manifesting simply about changing one's internal mindset to believing that the goal you want is possible through external stimuli related to the goal?
To me manifesting implies a sort of magical quality that promises to deliver. "Lying" to myself is more about my own internal world if that makes sense? I don't think it will necessarily change the outcome but will make the journey more enjoyable!
That does make sense. A person can't simply wait around and expect someone to happen. They must put in some effort to achieve their goals. Thanks for responding!
Exactly! And I often think the problem with manifesting is that when things don't work out it's because the person didn't "want" it enough instead of taking into account external circumstances!
I feel like I fall into that same camp that you used to; I tell myself I’m protecting my feelings by not getting my hopes up but it definitely limits my optimism. I tell myself I’m being “realistic” because I’m someone who finds disappointment (particularly with myself) especially shattering. Even reading this and feeling it resonate with the awareness that more positivity would probably serve me better, I can’t fully convince myself I need to do something different. Thank you for this source of self-reflection. Looks like I’ve found this week’s topic for therapy!
I relate to all of this so much! Here's to both of us getting more comfortable being optimistic about our own lives! xoxo A
Best of luck for the deadline! :)
Thank you so much! xoxo A
Isn't manifesting simply about changing one's internal mindset to believing that the goal you want is possible through external stimuli related to the goal?
To me manifesting implies a sort of magical quality that promises to deliver. "Lying" to myself is more about my own internal world if that makes sense? I don't think it will necessarily change the outcome but will make the journey more enjoyable!
That does make sense. A person can't simply wait around and expect someone to happen. They must put in some effort to achieve their goals. Thanks for responding!
Exactly! And I often think the problem with manifesting is that when things don't work out it's because the person didn't "want" it enough instead of taking into account external circumstances!
Very true.
It's definitely a balancing act! And the right amount probably varies person to person and situation to situation!