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Andrea's avatar

Really related to this one! I've been feeling bummed lately when a close friend has posted kind of big deal social activities she's doing on social media that I didn't know were happening. We talk every day! How could I not have known she was doing this? We're not in the same location and I'd have no expectation of being invited anyway, so it's not that. It's just that if I were doing something similar I probably would have brought it up in conversation with everyone I knew and I couldn't relate to not sharing in that way. But I think it's a mark of personal growth I haven't let it hurt my feelings, haven't felt the need to bring it up, I just noted my surprise and processed that this is just how she operates. I trust she'd still share important things with me.

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Kerry's avatar

This really hit home for me! I am also dating someone who is so much more private than I am, who holds their cards very close to their chest. For the first while, not being able to read him easily filled me with anxiety, and I would constantly assign my own imagined meaning to his behavior. It's been tough, but the longer we are together the more comfortable I feel forcing myself to take a step back and examine why I may feel entitled to his every thought and emotion (spoiler alert it is me feeling that everyone is entitled to MY every thought/emotion). I'm learning to stop over-sharing and while it is tough, it is definitely worth the work. All I can do is ask him appropriate questions, and if he doesn't want to share, respect his decision. Thank you as always for sharing Allison, your posts are always so thought-provoking! Xx

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