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Jessica's avatar

Thank you for this, Allison. It is has been hard for me not to personalize the breakage of trust. But you are right when you say, “And if they end up breaking my trust, it won’t be my fault for not seeing it coming or not going to great lengths to prevent it. It will be their fault—and theirs alone.” How are we to ever predict the actions of someone else? Even those we think we know well will always surprise us.

The hard part for me is to choose to trust again. The pain and hurt after betrayal is so unbearable.. every time it happens, I tell myself I can never go through such an experience again. My body is tensing up as I think of it!

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Myq Kaplan's avatar

dear allison,

this is super.

the two scenarios you offer at the end are right on.

a possible positive > a guaranteed negative

100%

congrats on this attitude! i think that believing in the possibility of a positive outcome and acting on it is much more conducive to RECEIVING a positive outcome than in not doing that.

thanks for sharing! and trusting! great thoughts!

love,

myq

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