Allison, this is so beautifully and honestly written. Thank you so much for sharing this with us - it's so relatable and so helpful to know others navigate these sorts of insecurities as well. Thank you for continually offering these examples of courage in the face of self-doubt, also. You really inspire me to be more honest and open about things, and to keep pushing forward through fear of rejection. I can't wait for your book to come out, and I hope your recovery is as quick and straightforward as possible.
This is so kind!! Thank you so much! I've always found it so helpful to remind myself that I don't need an absence of fear to be brave--in fact it is the presence of the fear that makes us brave! xoxo A
What a beautifully vulnerable and honest post. My last partner and I didn’t work out, but he was my caregiver for two weeks after a mouth surgery. Not as intense as major knew surgery, but I really felt that time brought us wayyy closer (in a good way!) For me, if a partner cannot handle the real-life aspects of a relationship, they will be hard pressed to find anyone long-term.
But hey, after just listening to your podcast with John, something tells me you two will be even better from this. 💗
“We risk a lot when we let someone get close to us. But we risk even more when we don’t.” —My amazing talented poetic courageous girlboss idol Allison R. Thanks for sharing this with us 🥺
Hi Allison! I hope you recover soon. I found this a really interesting read, because I certainly relate to feeling guilty when I need my partner to look after me. But the conversation around intimacy and care giving reminded me of my parents and their almost opposite view. My Dad has UC and my parents were fairly new in their relationship when it initially began. While he now leads a mostly normal life, the few small daily care tasks that came with it are almost always done together (even though my Dad can definitely do it on his own). My parents use it as an opportunity to be intimate, close and express their love. My Mom often talks about how their experience of going through this really difficult and scary thing and being there for each other early on, really strengthened their relationship. I see how their outlook/perspective on daily care tasks changes the way those tasks impacts their lives. (Also, it's interesting to consider how gender roles and societal expectations may play a role in these dynamics.) Thanks for sharing your experience!
This is so beautiful! And I totally relate to their outlook! In the last few days I've been showering more by myself with John just helping me at the beginning and end and a part of me misses the closeness (although I am relieved to be able to do more on my own!) xoxo A
Allison, I hope you feel better soon. I had hand surgery a week or so ago (on my dominant hand) and I know the feeling of dependence on your partner. We also just got covid 🙃. I can't even change my baby's diaper or cook or really do anything. It's humbling and a nice reminder of how my partner loves me no matter what.
Oh my goodness!! I hope you're holding up okay and feel better soon! These rough patches can pull us apart or bring us together and it sounds like you guys are a real team! Sending love xoxo A
Thank you so much for the well wishes and for sharing your experience with it all. I think i've just really learned in the past two years that the risk and discomfort of asking for the help is worth it in the end even if it super hard in the moment xox A
Allison, this is so beautifully and honestly written. Thank you so much for sharing this with us - it's so relatable and so helpful to know others navigate these sorts of insecurities as well. Thank you for continually offering these examples of courage in the face of self-doubt, also. You really inspire me to be more honest and open about things, and to keep pushing forward through fear of rejection. I can't wait for your book to come out, and I hope your recovery is as quick and straightforward as possible.
This is so kind!! Thank you so much! I've always found it so helpful to remind myself that I don't need an absence of fear to be brave--in fact it is the presence of the fear that makes us brave! xoxo A
What a beautifully vulnerable and honest post. My last partner and I didn’t work out, but he was my caregiver for two weeks after a mouth surgery. Not as intense as major knew surgery, but I really felt that time brought us wayyy closer (in a good way!) For me, if a partner cannot handle the real-life aspects of a relationship, they will be hard pressed to find anyone long-term.
But hey, after just listening to your podcast with John, something tells me you two will be even better from this. 💗
That is so kind! Thank you! I totally agree with your outlook and am so glad you were there for each other when you needed him xoxo A
“We risk a lot when we let someone get close to us. But we risk even more when we don’t.” —My amazing talented poetic courageous girlboss idol Allison R. Thanks for sharing this with us 🥺
Thank you for reading xoxoo A
Hi Allison! I hope you recover soon. I found this a really interesting read, because I certainly relate to feeling guilty when I need my partner to look after me. But the conversation around intimacy and care giving reminded me of my parents and their almost opposite view. My Dad has UC and my parents were fairly new in their relationship when it initially began. While he now leads a mostly normal life, the few small daily care tasks that came with it are almost always done together (even though my Dad can definitely do it on his own). My parents use it as an opportunity to be intimate, close and express their love. My Mom often talks about how their experience of going through this really difficult and scary thing and being there for each other early on, really strengthened their relationship. I see how their outlook/perspective on daily care tasks changes the way those tasks impacts their lives. (Also, it's interesting to consider how gender roles and societal expectations may play a role in these dynamics.) Thanks for sharing your experience!
This is so beautiful! And I totally relate to their outlook! In the last few days I've been showering more by myself with John just helping me at the beginning and end and a part of me misses the closeness (although I am relieved to be able to do more on my own!) xoxo A
Allison, I hope you feel better soon. I had hand surgery a week or so ago (on my dominant hand) and I know the feeling of dependence on your partner. We also just got covid 🙃. I can't even change my baby's diaper or cook or really do anything. It's humbling and a nice reminder of how my partner loves me no matter what.
Oh my goodness!! I hope you're holding up okay and feel better soon! These rough patches can pull us apart or bring us together and it sounds like you guys are a real team! Sending love xoxo A
Thank you so much for the well wishes and for sharing your experience with it all. I think i've just really learned in the past two years that the risk and discomfort of asking for the help is worth it in the end even if it super hard in the moment xox A
Yes! The thoughts themselves don't mean there will be a bad outcome! Thank you so much for sharing your experience <3 A